Thursday, April 17, 2014

The subjectivity in love through Love’s Philosophy





Some people blame their unhappiness on love; others express their happiness with love.

Love can be a misfortune; it can destroy someone’s stability and emotions. Over the time, civilizations around the world –Greeks, Romans- have used love as center for their literary work. As a matter of fact, mythology relies on love and its characteristics; it is through love, lies and revenge that Greek Gods are closer to human beings. Greeks philosophers such as Plato and Aristotle distinguish two types of love, the first one is called tender- love and it is almost impossible someone gets hurt by this kind of love; the second one is the passion-love type which makes you rip your heart out. There are many people, who spend their lives looking for love, but they do not find it and surely there are other people who find it, yet this does not mean they will be happy. As sung by Ville Valo “love can say no” however love belongs to the human nature and its complexity, whether it hurts or not, love brings together death, life, anger, passion, and lust. This nature of love is what Percy Shelley describes in his poem Love’s Philosophy (1820); elements mingle together for a functional reason; because there cannot be A without B, there is not you without me.

Percy Bysshe Shelley was a Romantic writer, he explored imagination, self-expression, nature, beauty, and as the other Romantics he separated himself from reason. In Love’s Philosophy Shelley’s use of nature is evident. In fact, he departs from nature to explain what love is about and how he feels towards it. The poem itself is a gem; it establishes elemental relationships in nature, for example sunlight with earth, rivers with ocean, and compares them to the primordial relation of love. Additionally, we can appreciate the author’s wish for love and its uniqueness. In spite of this brilliant literary work, one should wonder is love that magical? Shelley associates love with life, nevertheless we shall consider that love is also death (not literarily). In this sense, I suggest death as the sadness and heartache any human being can go through because of heartbreaking. Certainly, heartbreaking is part of life and experience, but there is always someone who says “I will die for you” and “I will kill myself if you leave me”. The truth is that love is a manifestation of many aspects of the self; we can look at it as death or life.

Love is subjective and because of this it should not be mixed with sex or attraction. Although these last two terms play a role in love, this is not always the case. On the same note, love is unreasonable and unquestionable; men can love men, women can love women there is not a pattern in respect to loving someone. The view of society on who loves whom is the changeable particularity and this particularity is often linked to sex – not love- and the function of sex for the human kind. The predisposition of the human mind to judge love in regards of sexual intercourse has been a barrier for the self-expression of love through human history. For instance, in the Roman republic (84-54BC) a poet named Catullus wrote poems in which he exposed his perspectives of penises, vaginas and people. These perspectives originated an ambiguity and misjudgments in Rome and, thus in love. Ironically, literary studies have found that the purpose of Catullus’ disposal of erotic words and phrases was a strategy of discourse. Unfortunately, Roman society did not contemplate Catullus’ love for Lesbia and his romanticism. Instead, they criticized his sexual comments on men’s love and the emancipation of women (Fernandez, 2000, p.14).

According to Love’s Philosophy if everything mingles with other things why would I mingle with you? This is the final statement of the poem; however we can go further to comprehend the statements that are presented along.  Shelley writes: “The fountains mingle with the river / and the rivers with the ocean” (1-2). As I mentioned before, first he establishes a relation in which he points out to the source of a bigger entity – the ocean. He allures the connection of elements in order to form something more impressive. He continues by saying: Nothing in the world is single/ all things by a law divine/In one another’s being mingle (5-7). Praising how nature is divine, Shelley practically states that everything has its other half; there is no cavity for singularity. He finally ends the first stanza with “Why not I with thine?” (8).  In my opinion he declares that if  the ocean has  rivers and these one have fountains , he does not see an obstacle to be with his other half. Allegories to the vast nature are essential for this poem to be graceful and joyful; I suppose Shelley’s idea was to give to the reader an appealing view of love.

In the second and final stanza, Shelley’s comparison and metaphorical words of love and nature become stronger. He magnifies love and the search he has for it; mountains and heaven, moonbeams kissing earth, and waves clasping one another. In addition, he asks himself this time “what is all this sweet work worth/ if thou not kiss me” (15-16).  Apparently, he only needs a kiss for love to emerge and sometimes this is what some people think. Somehow, I differ from Shelley and the vision of love in Love’s Philosophy because it is too idealist for me and even though love works properly sometimes, the fact is that it makes people tear up a bit. Smiles and tears, this is the actual philosophy of love; a dichotomy that has the human being as the center of its functionality.

And while I write this essay, I think of my dear friend who is suffering because of love and betrayal. I just saw her crying this afternoon and I wanted to help her but I could not. At some point it is inevitable not to get hurt; Shelley’s Love’s Philosophy does not show this. Certainly, love is an amalgamation of –good and bad- feelings that according to the situation can change and block out the reasoning. Personally, I believe love is like a knife; it depends on you if you hurt yourself. I’m one of the few people on earth who is not anxious to find love. Moreover I still do not see the point on finding my other half, maybe time will change this thought though. Nonetheless, I admire the people who spend their lives on their own, they are wiser, they are smarter and they know more about love than people in love. If I do not find my other half, I will still be happy because happiness does not come from passion-love. Actually happiness comes from our inner self, our experiences and our surrounding, therefore we can be the fountains of our own rivers, and we can be the rivers of our oceans.

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